It's still snowing here and I was able to make a quick trip to the stables before the real heavy stuff starts again. Luckily, we are warm and cozy in our house and our horses are staying inside their stalls today. This is far and away the most snow we've ever had here in the 21 years of living in the NW. I'm originally from Chicago, so I've lived through a couple of blizzards that literally paralyzed the city, stopping the buses, freezing the "3rd rail" on the elevated trains and keeping the streets impassable for almost a week, so I know what real snow is. It's great when you are in school and it means that you don't have classes. For the kids here it means that they got 3 extra days of Christmas vacation. But what you don't do now, you have to make up later.
That reminded me of how many times I've tried to cut corners with horses and their training. When I was inexperienced and lacking in the knowledge I have now, I would find myself struggling to get a horse to stand still while I put on its halter, remove or put on its blanket and numerous other common routine activities that we have to do every day. I would pull on the horse or slap it or yell at it and finish what I was doing, figuring it was no big deal. Then, after owning horses for several years and gaining a little insight, I realized that even the small things can become a major hassle. I still watch horse owners struggling and wonder how involved they really are with their horse, because, it can't be fun to put up with the annoyance of constantly battling with your horse about everything!! I guess they figure, like I did, that it's just this one time and it seems "easier and quicker" to finish and go. It would take longer, right then, to stop and give the horse a quick lesson on how to behave and how to respond to particular cues, so that the routine becomes enjoyable for the horse and the owner.
Why is it that we have time to do the wrong thing over and over, but we don't have time to do the right thing once? I've heard it explained as similar to someone who wants to hang a picture by putting a nail in the wall. Except that, the only thing you have available is a wrench. Sure you can hammer the nail into a wall with the flat end of a wrench, but it's not the right tool or the most efficient way to accomplish the task. Imagine telling a hoof care person that the only tool they can use to trim the horse was a nail file-not a rasp-a file that humans use to take the edges off of their fingernails. Just how quickly would they stop and say, "this isn't working" and tell you just how frustrated they were. Why do we put up with the frustration? We either don't know any better or the alternative takes more time or thought on our part. I compare it to parenting. I'm sure you've all seen someone who instead of thinking ahead and avoiding disruptive behavior in their children, just end up yelling or spanking them in public when they act up. I call it "preventative versus reactive" parenting.
Most of us who love horses learn just enough to get us through an average day with our horses. Clean, feed, lead your horse in without being hurt or at least without having your arm completely pulled out of the socket. One of two things usually has to happen before people realize that they need to expand their knowledge and skills with horses: they begin taking their horse out, away from the routine of daily life and/or the owner gets hurt while handling/riding the horse. The great thing about horses, unlike children, is that they are looking for a leader, every minute of every day and if they meet someone new, human or horse, they start the process all over. They are literally checking your qualifications for leadership as you walk them from point A to point B. They can tell pretty quickly, if you can cut it. Depending on whether their personality is more dominant or submissive, you have to show leadership that fits their needs. Children and adolescents as they get older, figure out how to get around authority and leaders because they figure they don't need them anymore and they've experienced inconsistency and dysfunctional behavior. Horses are much more forgiving and that's why we love being around them. You can have another chance EVERY time you're with them.
So, even if you didn't take care of things today, with a little knowledge and time, you'll convince your horse that you can make his life enjoyable and keep him safe tomorrow and from now on. That's all he really wants. To be safe and comfortable on a cold day......or any day!
P.S. If you look closely, the photo above was taken in the same place as the photo from the fall and the blog entry "A Beautiful Day".